Sunday, December 29, 2013

whirlwind...

Few more days and it's 2014. It seemed like yesterday when we (my BBFF and I) were sort of worried and defensive about our horrorscopes for 2013 when it said that this year will be a year of challenge and change...that spelled A HARD YEAR. . .and instead of resisting life,we managed to go with the flow which I believe took us to some better place.



Who could've thought that I'd be doing this blogging thingy? Pursuing an accountancy course, plunging into the unknown,got hurt and took another chance in love and embracing all the feelings it brought? This year was more than a roller coaster ride, It's more of a whirlwind. No seat belts and safety precautions...just chaos all around but I found peace at the same time being aware that at last I can see that my life is in motion. I've found new friends and seemed to lose some.But one thing that this year etched on my mind is that life goes on,and just because we are upset doesn't mean that time will stop for us. We shouldn't dwell in the past,we should move on but never forget what it taught us. Accept that some people may be heroes for others but to us they're just plain jerks (and also we could be that jerk). Tell your story,someone might be listenin' and you'll never know what lessons/inspiration they might be getting from it. I've been listening and listening and never sharing those to others. This year,I talked more..some may be none sense but I talked more than the usual,and I like the feeling of having an itchy dry throat from too much talking.





I am very thankful for the people who came my way. They made me realize that no matter how alone you feel,someone cares. (you just have to let them show it to you). I am also grateful for the people who stayed,despite my lack of sweet caring bones. (well I have sweet caring thoughts with no actions).Thank you for sticking in with the stubborn me. I'd like also to say sorry for the people I offended because of my careless tongue and harsh thoughts. (I am sorry but I don't regret saying whatever those words were). Sometimes I think that the reason why I'm quiet almost of the time is to avoid offending others. :D



I am just very blessed that I got this far, little by little (in my own pace) I'm growing up.



I pray that 2014 will be another good year,with lesser tragedies and calamities and more of innovations and peace linkages. I pray for comfort and guidance as we continue in living good lives for the greater glory of our Lord.



Gambatte as always! Strive to survive!

...and as another year is starting,I want to share a major life changing trigger I had for this year 2013(my life never really started spinning until this): 

"She was staring at the sky
 She is hiding from the light
And I wonder what she’s thinking
Then she made me realize
That life is like a roller coaster ride
 Now you smile
 And then you cry
Then you do it over
 Over and over
Fly like the airplane in the sky
Set it free let it go
 Feel the hurt just let it fall"

(credits to the writer)

... just let go and fall,someone will catch you or you'll learn how to fly on your way down.


Thursday, December 19, 2013

Going SOL...?



"…but i think it's very healthy to spend time alone. you need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person."
                                          -olivia wilde.

I’s good to spend time alone…why don't you try to go solo some other time?

How to go sol:

Be determined to go alone. A personal date with yourself is a treat your inner self deserves . (remember being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. The fact that you can enjoy hanging out with yourself is one thing you can be proud of)

Be prepared (charged cellphone,moolah,umbrella and a jacket). The charged cellphone will be for emergency purposes,use it only when in desperate need of help. Do not go sol,and spend the whole time texting your friends how you wished they’re with you or replying to their messages on how they wish they are with you. I say, keep your phone alert for calls and turn off your message alert tone. When going sol,you can do without the cellphone but not the last three)

Dedicate the whole day for you (you may run some few errands but make sure that a bigger portion of the day will be a ME-TIME
Do not stay at home! (that doesn’t count as going sol)
The best place to go sol is at a mall. Stroll around, watch a movie, dine, visit clothe shops, pet shops,gadget stores,book shops, and in my case, I sometimes visit hardwares.
You can go to church,stroll on streets and hang out in a park or café.

It is hard to go sol on a vacay trip..vacay trips are better with friends or the fam. That way, you get to split the bill and when you’re lost,at least you’re not alone or that someone would be looking for you ;D
 
Going sol doesn’t really mean spending lavishly on one’s self. It is more of taking time to tune in with yourself, testing if you’re still able to make your own judgment when given two choices, knowing your first reactions to situations, and understanding yourself more by the things that make you happy and piss you off . It also allows you to look around and observe, to give smiles to strangers and answer some questions or the other way ‘round. If you’re not friends with yourself, then going sol gives you a chance to befriend you.

Having friends is great but being friends with your self is way more than great. Sometimes, friends influence a person too much that that the other is in danger of becoming a clone. (well in this case, they’re not friends, but just peers). Going solo is also good when you’re so low…you don’t just get to scold and console yourself but you get to ask and force yourself to answer truthfully.

Last November 27,2013, I went Sol for Disney’s Frozen 3D movie. ‘twas uber cool to think that I almost watched the movie alone in the theatre if the guard and a father with kids didn’t came in later

Why I go sol:
I go sol because of selfish reasons, when going    sol,I don’t have to worry whether the person I’m with is bored, tired or hungry. . . 

Why I’ll go sol : 
I’ll go sol because I’m more comf’table when I’m with myself than when I’m with someone.

Why I’d not go sol :
they say, life starts at the end of our comfort zones…and I’d like to sail somewhere ala life of Pi with some monkeys, snakes and perhaps a tiger. (kidding!)

Why I’ll try not to go sol all the time: 
to challenge myself outside my comfort zone is to give myself a chance to level up! So I’m on the loose…but still tied of course. (You don’t know what I mean :D )..Plus life they say is not just about knowing yourself but more of knowing others and letting them know you.


My BBFF who is taking up law gave me this shirt.A good reminder that there will always be people who will care. ;)


esse est co-esse (to exist is to co-exist)

Saturday, December 14, 2013

Chasing a Dream:Choosing Happiness:Chance Offered...grab all

Please welcome me back...

I just got back my wifi modem after downgrading my unlimited plan 899 to limited 450. Holidays and holydays are approaching and I'd be spending most of these times on a place where I cannot get the most of the unlimited wifi connection,so went the downgrade to save more Php (for gifts?) :D

I'm sort of chasing a dream (not the kind you get by sleeping but the kind where you stay up and study), and that requires passing all exams(which will be next week)...and my plan was to go home earlier,eat earlier so I can study earlier but Centrio Garden is at buzz for this is where Mercato de Oro is situated so maybe I can stall awhile and just wake earlier tomorrow so that I can study earlier. 
There are food stalls (from full meals to snacks to cakes and cupcakes). There are also trinkets for sale,tables where you can eat comfortably and live music. My plan was to just sort of scan the area just to know what it has to offer and come back later with some moolah and friends. It's useless when you talk yourself into not spending and you end up giving in to spending. Though I have to admit, it's a good find and will be useful too.

the bag that gives a chance to help...
Just what I needed: A bigger bag to accommodate more books and a constant reminder why I'm in this hullabaloo kind of life. (just kidding on the hullabaloo part)

PagBAG-o Project (Change Project) is a creative livelihood collaboration between housewives in Xavier Ecoville who produce the bags and Xavier University students & alumni who make the designs.

Xavier Ecoville is a resettlement community for Topical Storm Sendong survivors located in Brgy. Lumbia, Cagayan de Oro City. Supporting their pagBAG-o project by purchasing these bags will keep the livelihood alive thus will continue to support families in the community. This project is also currently supporting typhoon Yolanda survivors in Visayas.



Go buy one for yourself and more for your friends and family. :D

They have a spot on Mercato de Oro's bazaar ;you may also contact them at pagbagoproject@gmail.com or find them on facebook pagbag-o project or thru 0935-370-9448

I know I mentioned about food....and this Mexican Cantina menu is all I  can manage to show you (for now).

MASAS Mexican Cantina mobile: 0917-314-4612

Espero que mi próximo blog será sobre la comida.muchas gracias, hasta la próxima vez.


Monday, October 28, 2013

landscaped...errrr...hairscaped I mean :D (My hairscape experience)

I cannot erase the thought of having a haircut might turn out as horrorcut after..(to think November is just outside our doors), but I'd like to have a newer look before I go home in the mountains for the holidays.

All I wanted was to have some bangs swept on the sides (sideswept bangs it is) and tadah! I ended with a full haircur and a fuller ego*. 

'Twas my first time to try Hairscape.Ph in Centrio-Ayala Mall and I was on my usual solo flight modes (that means there's no one to tell me whether I'm off to a good place or a doom place) but I'm glad I went in anyway..

Hairscape.Ph gave me a sense of comfort (as if trying to tell me "relax,your head/hair will be in good hands":D). Their haircut service came with a relaxing shampoo massage (I could've  stayed lying there and enjoy more of the massage). I was offered drinks (tea ? water?) of my choice and it's free. What I love more was the initiative that I was given a magazine in case I wanted to browse one (That's being sensitive of what type of customer they are having and I'd like to assume that they sensed my shyness ).

Mae was my stylist,and thank heavens (at last!),someone told me that bangs might be not so for me since I have a low forehead. She recommended a bob and some treatments that my hair would be very happy to have (I guess,bob's my forever and pixie will just remain in my dreams). She definitely gave me a haircut that sent my inner self grinning widely from ear to ear evily (I told you, my ego's full).

It was also my first time to have two people (mae & marisol) working simultaneously in blowdrying my hair (the fuss did made the experience worthwhile---add three more people to work on the manis, pedis and make up, and I'd feel like I'm some make believe celebrity ).

I just didn't had a haircut, I had myself Hairscaped...and Oh,they finished it off with a spray of TIGI Bedhead product ( If I'm not mistaken that was the HeadRush).


One haircut can turn your world around.
People may see the difference but there is more to that....YOU (with the new haircut) can feel that difference.

I don't want to post pictures of myself in shiminisheng but moi/ego is full so I'm posting it anyway :D

There I go, after the overflowing of close and open parenthesis I just want to tell you that my experience was definitely worth having.

Have your own experience, Hairscape.ph is located at 3rd floor Centrio-Ayala Mall. Find them on Facebook hairscape.ph



P.S. It seems that my Sundays are becoming FIC (Fruits in Ice Cream) days...I had a scoop of Choco Mint variant.

*self

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Mercato de Oro

Mercato Centrale in Cagayan de Oro City!

 Ayala Centrio will be serving us more through Mercato de Oro Starting December 7,2013 (Saturday).

Friday and Saturday Night Food and Entertainment Market will start at 4:oo PM-3:00 AM
Saturday  'fresh and organic' market will open 7:00AM-2:00 PM

This might be another "food-with-friends/family weekend destination'' and a good place  to showcase more the fresh and organic produces from Northern Mindanao. 

It is something to look forward to...

via Centrio
I'm not a foodie but I'd like to find my way to becoming one. ..maybe a wide array of delicious and affordable food choices will get me there. ;)


I just happen to know about this through Facebook. Thanks to facebooking.

Friday, October 25, 2013

Journal Entry : Fear




 
It’s the day after Christmas
Everyone wished it would last
The reunion is all the fuss
Precious moments, it brings us close.

Suddenly there came a shriek
The reason for it we seek
We saw a familiar figure coming
It was you who is approaching.

I recognized you, though you’ve changed
I didn’t knew how to act, it made me flinch
You don’t seem to know me
You knew and remembered them all except me.

It pinched my heart
I was hurt
I wanted to burst into tears
Realizing it’s only a dream I had thought the years

I pretended to act normal
And you managed to be formal
Oh how I wanted you to talk to me
But you’re so occupied I see.

So I just sat there and waited
Until the excitement subsided
I presumed, there would be time that’s right
To talk to each other if we might.

But I guess I just don’t have the luck
To our group approaches a flock
Your face turned much brighter
And my heart was squeezed tighter

You introduced her to us
That she was your girl. Oh gosh!
Only few noticed my reaction
Only those who could connect the relation

Well, if that would ever happen
I’m not sure if my heart would still be open
And if so, maybe it would be a lesson learned
To not let go of a thing you so much yearned.
 

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

..we are so related!plants,cockroaches,butterflies,fishes,shrimps and humans

One of our final requirements for a subject in school to reflect on one of the articles found in www.icr.org
I was absent during the announcement (ooops!) and have to clarify whether the instruction 'reflection,reaction' would require me to come up with an informed reflection or the usual OMG-don't-know-that kind of reaction. So much for my confusion,our group is reflecting on a certain article that involves plants having electrical signals...and pooof! my love palpitations (for all things wonderful) is triggered.



I just cannot,remain on this article about Plants (click here to read it)..
I need to read more,which led me to many other articles...and I'm urging you to read it.

Amazing Fish Adaptive Design
Taste Tests Confirm Cockroaches Change Preferences
Humans Were Made for Walking
Butterflies Mimic Other Species with 'Amazing Supergene'
Evolution Can't Explain Dancing Babies
Yawning With a Purpose
Fish Studies Answer Flood Question
Shrimp Eye May Inspire New DVD Technology
Intestinal Bacteria: A Delicate Balance
Flu Fighter Found in Fruits and Vegetables
Wipe Once, Then Toss: The Antibiotic Resistance of the Superbug

every single detail has a purpose..(so is with whatever happening in our lives right now)...we were designed incredibly by God...to survive,thrive and live. We are so beyond what we think we are!
(all creations alike)


7.2 magnitude earthquake in Bohol (shook also other parts of Visayas and Mindanao)

I woke up today and found in my FB newsfeed full of posts about them being awakened by some earthquake. I on the other hand, can't relate to such because I just had my first good morn's sleep after weeks of sleepless nights...Philippines has been having occasional earthquake (compared to the 'rare' that we had before)..and I was like ''ok,another earthquake'' until I've learned more about the earthquake. A 7.2 magnitude earthquake hit Bohol Philippines, morning of Tuesday,October 15,2013. I saw pictures of toppled houses and cracked pavements together with damaged display products of some stores , but what saddened me more was when I saw pictures of old churches ruined by the quake. 

I was able to go there, and Bohol is full of old houses and old churches (my kind of interests). For a person who is so sentimental, seeing these heritage sites in a not so good state is just so heartbreaking. 

Loboc church is the second oldest Church in Bohol.

Loboc church after the quake photo  via
the separate belfry tower BEFORE (photo not mine)
Bell Tower AFTER the quake photo via
 Loon Church is the biggest church in Bohol...
photo via


I've  been to Bohol (only once), but wasn't able to get to know these churches closely. All the more reasons for me  to be sad.  ' Guess this is one of the many reasons to travel more...not just to explore but to witness and make yourself part of a bigger common world.

Sentimental things serve as constant reminder of where we were...now that,these visible reminders are slowly fading from the scenes...it is indeed a great challenge for us to recollect,retain the faith and live a life that will serve as our legacy for those in the future with these legacy of our ancestors preserved in our hearts.




Friday, October 11, 2013

coping..when there's no prevention and cure

We cannot fully avoid stress...so when it comes...here are some of my tried and tested busters for stress. I've read a full
article of this on Yahoo (a long list of busters I say...some were not applicable to me), so here's the list of what worked for me and I added some of my own.


1.For 5 minutes each day, forget your plans and worries and live in the present, enjoying what's around you

2.Get it off your chest. Bottled-up feelings increase stress. If someone disappoints or upsets you, let them know..or let someone know.

3.Just say no. It's not being selfish-it's a great prevention against stress.

4.Take sleep seriously.

5. Nurture your friendships. Kindred souls will help you stay sane

6.Whatever you enjoy doing, give it a regular place in your life.

7.Make the morning rush less crazed by embracing an easy hair and makeup routine. (or the no make up routine)

8.Know your stress signals (e.g., tummy troubles or neck pain), so you can recognize them right away and take care of yourself

9.Give yourself credit. Under stress, we often focus on failure instead of moving forward to complete what needs to be done.

10.Give yourself a pat on the back…not to console yourself but to acknowledge that you may did not so fine but you’ll do better next time.

11.When you need a time-out, go out somewhere ( a place in the town or a place in your head) and listen to music

12.Walk whenever you can. Walk because you can.

13.Try retail therapy (only if the other busters won’t work…make it your last option if you don’t want to go broke!)..though retail therapy for me is some sort of an indication that I’m stressed…when I realized later that I just spent some money for some useless or not so necessary things…that’s when I try the other busters.


14.Ask for help. Remember that you don't have to do everything by yourself

15.   Keep a stress diary. You’ll realize patterns and you get to understand yourself more. (I call it mood mapping)

16.   Get enough sleep. When you're tired, even small problems seem so large. (Did I mention already to take sleep seriously?)

17.   Don't hurry out of the water…enjoy the shower. (this  is not applicable when you’re running late for work…on some weekends perhaps)

18.   Go for a brisk walk. Vigorous exercise burns nervous energy and pumps you full of feel-good endorphins

19.   Clean out your cabinet, purse, bag or desk drawer. This will boost your sense of control

20.   Try thinking worst-case-scenario to see how unrealistic overreacting is. If you're stuck on traffic, take the thought, "I'm going to be late," to a ludicrous point, "I'm going to be fired," to an even more ludicrous point, "I'm going to have to sell pencils on the street!" Feel your anxiety deflate.

21.   Fold laundry or do the laundry -productivity combats stress

22.   Plan a vacation. You don't really have to travel-the idea is to move your thoughts somewhere else. (though pursuing the idea of really traveling somewhere would excite you and would definitely give you good vibes) ;)

23.   Count your blessings. Focusing on what's going well in your life will give you perspective and make you feel better

24.   Search online for a short funny video to watch-laughter reduces stress hormones (Youtubing I say!)

25.   Think about the person who is stressing you out. Is she/he under pressure herself? Empathy helps defuse tension

26.   Call a friend who will listen without judgment. Not only will it help you to vent, but your friend's calmer state will rub off on you. ( a no-fail buster…works all the time. I’m very grateful to have my BBFF)

27.   If your heart is pounding, do not fight the symptom…ride it like a wave.

28.   Breathe slowly through your nose (with your mouth closed). Visualize your breath going to the center of your head, then going out. Do this 5 to 15 times

29.   Peel an orange. Breathe in the aroma as you tear away the skin. .. and enjoy eating the orange.

30.   Try scream therapy: Let out a shout in your head (I’d like to try screaming out in the field or  beach..might work out faster). You'll feel better afterward

31.   Say a prayer-it's one of the most potent antidote to stress. Connecting with a higher power helps you gain strength and clear your mind

32.   At work, walk over to someone's desk to talk, go to the watercooler, force yourself to move. It will relieve physical tension

33.    Sit up straight.

34.   Take three deep breaths-5 seconds in, 5 seconds out-to slow your heart rate and the pace of your stress hormones.

35.   Sit up straight.

36.   Read a new book or try a new ice cream flavor.

37.   Look around…you’ll realize you’re not just the one who’s on breaking point…and if you see happy people, then It’s an assurance that even if we’re having troubles right now, these too shall pass and better days are definitely coming.

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...stress is one big pimple grower...we can't handle another stress due to pimple breakouts..(right?).p